It’s the Holidays! Time for swapping gifts, sipping hot chocolate in front of the fire, and feeling endlessly and blissfully happy, right!? All those twinkling lights, happy songs, and festive social gatherings makes it the perfect time of year to share with a loved one. But…what if you’re navigating this season on your own? Have no fear, fierce girlfriend, you can still rock it and have an awesome time!! Read on to find out a few tips for how to enjoy the holidays solo!
Hollywood has given us some pretty unrealistic expectations when it comes to the holidays…everyone is smiling and getting along like gangbusters, the house is perfectly clean and organized and looks like Santa Claus threw up all over it with all the holiday decorations!
But, for those of us cruising the holiday circuit solo, it can be a bit more challenging. Why? Because Hollywood tells us that if we’re not happily smoochin’ our favorite guy under the mistletoe, we need to be festooned in an ugly Christmas sweater while feeling all sad and lonely (I’m looking right at you, Bridget Jones!).
But, it doesn’t need to be this way, girlfriends!
You can be single AND completely enjoy the holiday season!
I know, I know…it is much nicer to have someone to share the Christmas magic with and take in all the sparkly lights. It can definitely be more fun attending the numerous holiday parties with the satisfaction of knowing that you already have your +1! And shopping for gifts can certainly feel more meaningful when you have that certain someone to surprise with the perfect gift (although, reality check…how often do we actually find THE perfect gift??)!
But…you can have just as much fun on your own! I SWEAR! like, pinky swear!
I realize we only have one more week to celebrate the season, but there’s still plenty of time to get out there and enjoy yourself AND feel the Christmas magic! That way when you arrive home for the family gathering and Aunt Bertha starts interrogating you about why you’re still single, you can flash her a big smile and assure her you are having the time of your life (and this time, she won’t have a choice but to believe you since it’ll be radiating off of you!).
So, how do we make this happen? Well….
Tip #1: You HAVE to accept that you’re single and it’s OK!
If you’re reading this and you’re not quite on board with me yet, you may be thinking, ‘yeah right…I’m single, it’s the holidays, and this SUCKS!’.
If that’s you, take a deep breath, and open your heart to a few new ideas….because the the first thing we need to do is to readjust your perception of things!
Here’s the cold, hard truth….right now,
YOU ARE EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE
(whether you like it or not)!
You might not want to be single…but, for some reason, it’s where you need to be right now. EMBRACE it! While there are so many awesome things about being coupled off, there are also many awesome things about being on your own!
On the flip side there are not-so-awesome things about being coupled off, just like there are not-so-awesome things about being on your own.
The point is, choose to focus on those awesome things regardless of your situation and you won’t be able to help but enjoy life!
Tip #2: Make your own traditions
Now is the time to start your own yearly tradition that YOU will look forward to because it’s something that brings your heart joy! Maybe it’s wrapping gifts at a retirement home, or donating toys to children that might be without presents this year, or baking extra goodies for your neighbors. It doesn’t matter what it is, but find something that you really enjoy, that will make you feel great, and you can look forward to doing every year going forward. This might be something that you want to include Mr. Right when you find him, or better yet…keep it just for YOU regardless of your relationship status!
Tip #3: Buy yourself an AWESOME gift
I’m a BIG believer in buying yourself a gift for Christmas, birthdays, etc. Normally, if I’m dating someone, they tend to do a good job of treating me with a really nice gift, so I just buy myself something small that I have been wanting.
Well..now that you don’t have to spend your money on a expensive gift for a dude, spend it on YOU! Treat yourself to something extra special that no one else would buy for you and then every time you see it, use it, wear it, whatever, you’ll have the extra special knowledge of knowing you were worth it and deserved it and YOU made it happen!
And just to note…it doesn’t have to be expensive or even a material thing! Maybe you want something that is only $20 but you know no one else is going to buy it for you…get it!! Or, maybe treating yourself to a day at the spa is something you would LOVE to do but would never normally indulge in…book it!!
The point is, do something or buy something for yourself that makes YOU feel special!
Tip #4: Flirt with all the hot guys at those holiday parties!
Hey, you’re single, so why not?! Don’t approach it like you’re hoping to meet the man of your dreams (you might come off as desperate), just have fun with it, because when you do find Mr. Awesome, you’re not going to be able to flirt with all the cute guys at the parties! So take advantage of your single status now and have a little fun!
A good thing to keep in mind and to help put things in perspective…you will not be single forever (I PROMISE!) and you will not be spending every single Christmas for the rest of your life alone…so, if you’re on you’re own this year, then create the environment to have the best Christmas ever!! If for no other reason that YOU DESERVE IT!!
The main thing to remember is that having a guy on your arm may seem like it would make things more fun, but you don’t need a guy to have your own fun! Besides, many of those people that are coupled off out there probably aren’t as happy as you may think they are. So, find your happiness within yourself and then work it!!
Your turn friends…since we’ve ALL been single at the holidays at some point in our lives, what are your suggestions for getting past the mental block that without a guy the season is less than perfect? Leave a few other ideas…we’d love to know (and since I’m single, I’d definitely be interested in knowing a few of your tips!)